April 2, 2025
Written by: Isabelle Jones | Lifestyle Editor
Fear. A simple four-lettered word that latches onto each of us. What was originally designed to protect us now holds many back. Learning to overcome fears is an essential step toward personal growth, confidence and overall well-being. Although fear is a natural response to perceived danger that is wired to protect us from threats, our modern life has diminished this need. There are many types of fears that one may harbor. Whether it is a singular fear or many, it falls under one of these six categories.
Primal fears — These are deep-seated, instinctive fears that have evolved over time to help us survive. Seen as universal, they are linked to real physical threats that our ancestors faced. According to grouporttherapy.com, “These fears include nyctophobia (fear of darkness), acrophobia (fear of heights), agrizoophobia (fear of wild animals), monophobia (fear of being alone or isolated) and sonophobia (fear of loud noises or sounds).” Since these fears are hardwired into our brains, they require conscious effort to overcome, even if they are not indicative of danger in modern life as they were in primal life.
Social fears — These are categorized as anxieties related to interactions with other people, mainly centered around the fears of being judged, rejected or embarrassed. They stem from the deep need for acceptance and belonging in society. Types of social fear include glossophobia (fear of public speaking), rejection-sensitive dysphoria (fear of rejection) and social phobia — anxiety disorder — (fear of embarrassment). This type of fear can hold people back from personal and professional growth.
Phobias — Phobias are intense, irrational fears of specific objects, situations or activities. They include mottephobia (fear of moths), claustrophobia (fear of enclosed spaces), megalophobia (fear of large objects or things), coulrophobia (fear of clowns), acridophobia (abnormal fear of grasshoppers) and trypanophobia (intense fear of needles in medical settings).
Trauma-based fears — This type of fear is an intense, persistent fear that develops as a result of past traumatic experiences. It is deeply rooted in emotional and psychological distress, which is often triggered by reminders of past events. This can lead to an avoidance of certain places, people and situations. Trauma-based fears include philophobia (fear of forming or maintaining intimate relationships), decidophobia (paralyzing fear of making a wrong decision) and atychiphobia (fear of extreme failure).
Existential fears — These are deep-seated anxieties about life, meaning and one’s own mortality. They stem from the awareness of human limitations, uncertainty and the search for purpose. In other words, existential fears center on any big, abstract questions that cause distress if left unresolved. They include thanatophobia (fear of death), apeirophobia (fear of infinity or eternity) and xenophobia. Although xenophobia is used to discriminate against others because of its tie to the fear of strangers and foreigners; the original meaning is much broader, including anything or anyone that’s unfamiliar or unknown.
Anticipatory fears — This fear can be summed up by its name, given its relation to future events or situations. Anticipatory fears are anxiety about things that might happen. This fear is based on the uncertainty and possibility of negative outcomes rather than any actual, immediate danger. Anticipatory fears trigger extreme anxiety, leading to avoidance behaviors that can interfere with one’s daily life. They include the fear of bad news and aerophobia (fear of flying).
Despite the fact that fear is a normal part of life, letting it control one’s decisions can limit one’s experiences and growth. Before one can begin to face their fears, we need to understand why we are fearful.
The first reason is evolutionary survival. Fear helps us to avoid harmful situations. Our brain’s amygdala detects danger and releases adrenaline to trigger our “flight or fight” reaction.
The second reason for fear is social and learned experiences. These develop through past personal experiences and observations. They shape fear through past events, social influences and psychological associations. One may develop a fear by watching others react fearfully. Society teaches us certain fears, and the media, movies and the news can reinforce those fears.
The third reason is biological and genetic factors. Some people are more prone to fear due to genetics or an overactive amygdala. Genetic factors can stem from certain mental illnesses such as anxiety disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders and avoidant personality disorder, making fear responses more intense.
Lastly, one can be fearful due to uncertainty or lack of control. Many fears stem from the unknown. When people feel that they have no control over a situation, fear tends to increase. Our need for control gives us a sense of security, stability and predictability in a very unpredictable world.
If someone wants to take control of their fears, there are several things they can do. First things first, one needs to identify and acknowledge their fears. Recognizing what makes one fearful helps provide the power to manage and reduce fear, instead of letting it control us. We need to ask ourselves, “Is this fear based on reality or perception?” This question helps one to decipher whether their fear is rational or irrational. Rational fears are often easier to face because they are based on real, tangible dangers. After recognizing the fear — as long as one wants to take action — the best method to combat it is gradual exposure. Facing one’s fear in small steps helps to desensitize to the fears over time. This helps build confidence, reduce anxiety and regain control over one’s fears.
During this time it’s important to challenge the negative thoughts that come with it, such as, “Something terrible will happen,” “Other people can do this, but I can’t” and “Everyone is watching me and waiting for me to fail.” Negative thoughts can make overcoming fear more challenging by reinforcing avoidance behaviors and lowering confidence. It’s essential to replace negative thoughts with rational, positive ones, because that helps us to take action, embrace challenges and overcome obstacles.
Extra support may be needed from other people in our lives. It’s a completely normal need, especially for those feeling like their fears are too powerful. Their encouragement and presence can provide the motivation and strength needed to take on challenges that come with facing one’s fears.
Overcoming fears is a journey. Encouragement and praise make one feel accomplished. Although friends and family may be enough for most, professional help can be needed when a fear seems too powerful for one to face. This happens when a fear becomes too overwhelming and interferes with daily life. One type of helpful therapy is cognitive behavioral therapy. This can help people change the way they think about their fears. It focuses on identifying negative thought patterns, challenging irrational fears and gradually exposing individuals to fearful situations in a controlled and supportive way.
The goal isn’t to eliminate fear entirely, but to learn how to manage it so it doesn’t control one’s life. By stepping outside of one’s comfort zone, confronting negative thoughts and taking small, courageous actions; one gains confidence, resilience and a greater sense of control. The greatest growth lies on the other side of fear. Franklin D. Roosevelt sums it up best — “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
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