Rylie Horrall  | Lifestyle Editor

Breakups are something that can happen at any time, and, generally, don’t feel great for at least one person. It might be fine for a person who initiates the breakup, but a person on the receiving end may feel different about the situation.

An important thing to keep in mind is that a person doesn’t have to go through a breakup alone; talking to someone trusted about how it felt or feels can help with the healing process. As someone who likes to bottle up their feelings and keep to themselves to avoid ‘hindering’ my friends and family’s lives, I understand how easy it is to take that route instead of talking it out. Nevertheless, that potentially isn’t the greatest mentality to have; it’s vital to remember that loved ones are willing to support and show that a person isn’t alone. In addition, everyone has their own way of healing, so if talking doesn’t help, don’t feel pressured to do so.

Post-breakup, an individual will probably find they have more free time than before, and this time can be utilized to their advantage. Leisure time is an opportunity to try something new — pick up a new hobby or cross something off that bucket list. Some activities one could undertake are learning a new language, going hiking, taking art lessons or starting to journal, whether that’s bullet journaling or writing down thoughts every day. During this time, prioritizing self-care is pertinent. 

I’m someone that tends to listen to music that fits my mood — albeit, it’s unintentional, but it’ll emphasize my mood as well. This is probably something that a person may do whilst going through a breakup and, honestly, embrace it. Make a killer playlist of the best breakup songs to jam out to and share it, like we did at The Western Howl — check page four of this issue. In addition, make one full of empowering bops and favorites that don’t wear out; this could help boost the mentality of being newly independent and awesome.

Last point is a big one: don’t text the ex. It’s probably been pondered, but I know I’m not the only one saying not to do it. It could very well just reopen some wounds that an individual has worked hard to close up, and it isn’t worth the pain or energy to deal with. Also, if they text first, don’t respond to them — same premise. Having space during this time is essential, but maybe, one day, a friendship could be possible with their ex. 

As a final closing statement, know that there is no appropriate amount of time to get over a breakup; for some it could be a short amount of time, and for others it can take longer periods. Each person should do what’s best for them.

Contact the author at rhorrall17@wou.edu

Photo by Rylie Horrall