Dear Esmeralda,
I’m a freshman bisexual girl and I have a big problem with relationships. They make me feel awkward. I don’t like holding hands and the mushy-gushy stuff hurts my soul. I’m asking for help to come out to my parents and also what I should do about not liking relationships. Am I the only one like this? I told my friend once, and she was really confused.
Confused in the Closet
Dear Confused in the Closet,
You have written to the right drag queen on this kitty girl! First of all, there is no rush in coming out to your parents. This can be one of the hardest things to do! Take a deep breath and, if possible, talk to them in person. I know it can be harder than a go go dancer’s abs but it will make you a happier person in the long run, for better or worse!
As for not liking relationships, this is easy as pie! There are many layers to an LGBTQ+ identity (not unlike onions)! There is romantic orientation, sexual orientation and, finally, gender identity! For example, I have this friend, (they are kinda a goofball and annoying but I love them anyway) whose full-blown identity is panromantic-grey-asexual-genderqueer. This means they are romantically attracted to all genders of people but rarely experience sexual attraction. No tea, no shade, no pink lemonade hunty, but it sounds like you could be the flip of them. You could be an aromantic bisexual. Be very careful to note the difference between aromantic and aromatic. One means you don’t experience romantic attraction and one means you have a smell about you.
To wrap it up, you are never alone in your struggles. Visit the Stonewall Center on campus or attend Triangle Alliance.
Please, if anyone out there has questions about their orientation ask the folks there or even bug me about it! Best of luck my dear!
Esmeralda
