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Opinion: An evaluation of hierarchies in relationships

Kay Bruley  | Photo Editor

Valentine’s Day is here finally, and love is in the air. It’s not just one day really though; all month you will see pink and red decorating the world. For many though, it seems like all year, with romance feeling like a constant celebration surrounding American culture.

You’d have difficulty finding a storyline in any popular film, TV show or book that doesn’t feature a prominent romantic narrative. Children from a young age will interact with each other and adults will assume there must be some undertone of a crush. And don’t think of mentioning an event occurring with the opposite gender unless you’re prepared for the suggestive comments — double win for a romance-centered AND heteronormative society.

The result of such oversaturation of romance in media and real life is the current mindset of it being the most important thing to happen in a person’s life. You think of important milestones and what comes to mind is “find the love of your life, get married, have kids” — in that order. Young people are force fed this narrative and treat it as the highest priority, creating shame in virginity and lack of dating experience. You’ll often hear reluctance in admitting to being single and people in their 20s will frequently worry about being ‘off track’ on the schedule of life.

With all of this, what’s become of platonic relationships? Too often, friends are viewed as backup relationships, side characters or people you hang out with when you aren’t with a significant other — or don’t yet have one. Romance represented in the media and real life supports the unimportance of friendships, which is a cultural flaw. Have you ever been close with someone and then after they find a partner, you stop hanging out as much? Experiences like these only further the mindset of friends being second class relationships. It’s a cycle of culture supporting unfulfillment in platonic relationships, which leads people to undervalue them, which then makes them unfulfilling.

The prompt here is to re-evaluate your priorities when it comes to the relationships in your life. Maybe even redistribute the value you place on each of these relationships. Keep questioning why we think about these things the way we do. Why do we pity the 40 year old that’s single? Why do we insist that deep connections must be inherently romantic? Why do we believe friends can never be enough for someone to be happy?

 

Contact the author at mbruley19@mail.wou.edu

Opinion: Soulmates, not what we think they are

Hannah Greene  | Sports Editor

Soulmate: a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner. Destiny, chance, meant to be, etc. Why do soulmates have to refer to a friend or someone we love? Why can’t this beautiful term represent a connection with anything that one may feel throughout their entire lives?

We are told that we have one true soulmate, that we have been connected to forever, that one day we will meet them and we will just know — this goes for our best friend and our significant other. But this is all so false; a soulmate can be anyone or anything that left a mark on our hearts and in our minds. A soulmate isn’t just a human, but can be an animal, a tune, a fragment of nature or just a natural connection to something way beyond our eyes.

In Australia, the word ‘mate’ is used as a form of endearment, to show someone platonic love or joy in their presence. The word is thrown around to everyone, it’s not used in the way of “mating” with someone, or the “mate” that is your significant other — it is in fact, just a mate.

Our souls live way beyond our bodies ever will, meaning the connections we will encounter will never truly end. Our souls truly see and are able to direct us to the connections we need, whether we can actually see it or not.

When I was little, I believed that I had one soulmate and that was who I was going to spend the rest of my life with… I was an idiot. Each year I have come across people, animals and moments, even if for the briefest moment, that have made an impact in my life that have bonded with my soul, leaving a little etch in my heart, causing it to grow more. Each passerby has shared my soul in a way that the next cannot. Each connection is never the same as the last, making each connection just as valuable as the last, even if I will never come across that person or thing again. 

Let’s cherish the mates our souls have found, embrace the teachings they have shown us and seize the seconds they give.

 

Here’s to the many mates my soul has introduced me to — the ones I am no longer able to see or hold, and the ones I hope to see again.

 

Contact the author at hgreene18@wou.edu

This Valentine treat your ears and listen to these suggested love songs

For this Valentine’s day, whether single, dating, complicated or somewhere in between, listening to love songs is a must. The Western Howl Staff have compiled a list of their favorite love songs, ranging from hilarious to tragic — feel free to listen.

 

Caity Healy | Managing Editor

“Say Yes” by Elliot Smith — The first line of this song eloquently sums up the feeling of being in love with a single sentence; “I’m in love with the world through the eyes of a girl.” It’s a hauntingly beautiful song about passion, about heartbreak and about the reality of love and all of the turmoil and joy it puts one through. 

 

Rylie Horrall | Lifestyle Editor

“Truly Madly Deeply” by Savage Garden — It’s a very mellow and relaxing song, and the lyrics are filled with devotion and love to whoever they’re singing about. Everytime I listen to it, I just get into a better mood because I’m caught up with picturing the love story that’s playing out.

 

Sean Martinez | Copy Editor

“There’s Nothing Holdin’ Me Back” by Shawn Mendes — There’s nothing more exciting and mysterious than the feeling of love. The song is about two people who aren’t sure how the other feels, but they can’t help but buckle in for the crazy ride. Energetic and uplifting, you can’t help but jump and dance to this song. 

 

Kyle Morden | Designer

“Don’t Hurt Yourself” by Beyoncé (feat. Jack White) — My ex was unfaithful. If you relate, this is the song for you.

 

Rachel Hetzel | Designer

“Social Climb” by I Don’t Know How But They Found Me — I don’t know how, but I found this band, and now I’m in love with all of their songs. A lot of them are more of a cynical take on love, and life in general, but this one specifically gives me deception and heartbreak vibes.

 

Cora McClain | Editor-in-Chief

“Saw You In A Dream” by The Japanese House — Whimsical and dreamy, this song describes how time with a lover can be as fleeting as a dream. It transports you to that hazy state in-between sleep and reality, where all you want is to fall right back asleep and into that sweet dream again.

 

Never Retallack | Entertainment Editor

“By Your Side” by Sade — This song with crooning vocals about being loyal and supporting a romantic partner instantly melts the listener’s heart. A perfect song to play for that special someone to show them how much love there is for them.

 

Sage Kiernan-Sherrow | News Editor

“Time in a Bottle” by Jim Croce — This is the sweetest song in existence and if you think I’m wrong you can fight me on that. It’s simple, reminiscent of songs like “You are my Sunshine,” but it’s lightness is masked by a sorrow and longing that implies the person they’re singing about is no longer there or that time is running out. Plus, they featured it as part of a skit on the original Muppet Show, so you know it’s good. 

 

Hannah Greene | Sports Editor

“Honeysuckle Rose” by Louis Armstrong and His All Stars — The tone and melody of this song is love. It’s short and oh so sweet, a song I could dance to with you (yes, you Max) forever. An excellent song to pair with any day to celebrate love — the love you have for someone or yourself.

 

Kay Bruley | Photo Editor

“Never Been in Love” by Will Jay — Great for those who have yet to find love/aren’t interested. This song celebrates being single and “alone with no loneliness.” Lines throughout remind you that love is not a race: “I’m not missing someone that I’ve never met.” You live your single life, and ENJOY it. 

 

Ashlynn Norton | Digital Media Manager 

“Bad Romance” by Lady Gaga — This song needs no explanation. It. Slaps.

 

Contact the author at howlentertainment@wou.edu

Photo by Kay Bruley

Get comfy this Valentine’s and watch these romantic movies

Never Retallack  | Entertainment Editor

While some like to spend Valentine’s with their partner on a romantic date, a challenging hike or a mini vacation, one thing that’s a crowd pleaser — whether single or taken — is a movie night. Romantic comedies are easy to follow and have a typical plot; tragic love movies also follow the same concept. Get comfy and watch a film from the lists below.

 

Classics

“Pretty Woman” (1990) (Amazon)

“Sleepless in Seattle” (1993) (Amazon)

“Ghost” (1990) (Hulu & Amazon)

“Titanic” (1997) (Amazon)

“Casablanca”(1942) (Amazon)

“While You Were Sleeping” (1995) (Disney + & Amazon)

“When Harry Met Sally” (1989) (Amazon & Hulu)

“Breakfast at Tiffany’s” (1961) (Amazon & Hulu)

“Never Been Kissed” (1999) (Disney + & Amazon)

“The Princess Bride” (1987) (Amazon)

“10 Things I Hate About You” (1999) (Disney + & Amazon)

“My Best Friend’s Wedding” (1997) (Amazon & Hulu)

 

Modern

“About Time” (2013) (Netflix & Amazon)

“To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before” (2018) (Netflix)

“Call Me By Your Name” (2017) (Amazon)

“Crazy Rich Asians” (2018) (Hulu & Amazon)

“Love, Simon” (2018) (Amazon)

“Twilight” (2008) (Hulu & Amazon)

“50 First Dates” (2004) (Amazon)

“Amelie” (2001) (Hulu)

“P.S. I Love You” (2007) (Netflix & Amazon)

“Hitch” (2005) (Netflix & Amazon)

“Brokeback Mountain” (2005) (Hulu & Prime)

“A Walk to Remember” (2002) (Amazon)

“Sweet Home Alabama” (2002) (Amazon)

“Alex Strangelove” (2018) (Netflix)

“Monster-In-Law” (2005) (Netflix & Amazon)

“The Fault in Our Stars” (2014) (Amazon)

“Love Rosie” (2014) (Netflix & Amazon)

“Burlesque” (2010) (Netflix & Amazon)

“Blue is the Warmest Color” (2013) (Netflix & Amazon)

 

Horror

“My Bloody Valentine” (1981) (Amazon)

“Valentine” (2001) (Amazon)

“The Strangers” (2008) (Amazon & Hulu)

“The Love Witch” (2016) (Amazon)

“Bride of Chucky” (1998) (Amazon & Hulu)

“Bride of Frankenstein” (1935) (Amazon)

“Warm Bodies” (2013) (Amazon)

“Crimson Peak” (2015) (Amazon)

“Pride and Prejudice and Zombies” (2016) (Hulu & Amazon)

“Let the Right One In” (2008) (Amazon)

“Sweeney Todd the Demon Barber of Fleet Street” (2007) (Netflix)

“A Girl Walks Home Alone at Night” (2014) (Amazon)

“Sleepy Hollow” (1999) (Amazon)

“Corpse Bride” (2005) (Amazon)

“Nightmare Before Christmas” (1993) (Amazon & Disney +)

“Edward Scissorhands” (1990) (Amazon)

“Queen of the Damned” (2002) (Amazon)

“Bram Stoker’s Dracula” (1992) (Amazon)

 

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From classics to now, fall in love with these poems

Never Retallack  | Entertainment Editor

Love — there are many mediums to describe it, and one of the most classic forms is poetry. Poetry may have been created as early as 20 B.C., but throughout centuries, it has allowed countless artists to manifest love. February is the perfect time to dip one’s toe into the realm of love poetry. Here’s a list of the classics and modern can cater to anyone.

 

Classic Poetry

“The More Loving One” by W. H. Auden

This short and simple poem was published in 1957 and depicts the tale of someone dealing with unrequited love. It is full of longing and quiet anguish, a relatable one for anyone struggling with one-sided feelings. (https://poets.org/poem/more-loving-one)

“How do I Love Thee?” by Elizabeth Barrett Browning

This heart wrenching poem published in 1850 shows that the author’s love is so deep and strong that it will continue even after death. This is a romantic poem to portray impenetrable dedication and love towards someone. (https://poets.org/poem/how-do-i-love-thee-sonnet-43)

“What lips my lips have kissed, and where, and why?” by Edna St. Vincent Millay

Once again not quite the happiest story, but Millay expresses not remembering lovers of her past, but just reminiscing about how happy she must have been. (https://poets.org/poem/what-lips-my-lips-have-kissed-and-where-and-why-sonnet-xliii)

 

Modern Poetry

“Heart to Heart” by Rita Dove

Published in 2017, this unique poem squelches any perceived ideas about what a heart is and how it is tied to emotion, and exposes her vulnerability when it comes to loving someone — a short and powerful must-read. (https://poets.org/poem/heart-heart)

“Resignation” by Nikki Giovanni

One of my favorite poems, published in 2003, illustrates what love is like when it feels like it is the only natural thing for someone to do with their soulmate. It is extremely romantic and a great way to warm the heart of one’s partner, showing just how much love there is in the relationship. (https://poets.org/poem/resignation)

“Teodoro Luna’s Two Kisses” by Alberto Ríos 

This short and sweet story published in 1990 describes how an older man kisses his wife by raising his brow, it is cute and simple, and warms the heart of readers. (https://poets.org/poem/teodoro-lunas-two-kisses)

 

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Oregon’s largest private university, Concordia University, is closing its doors after this term

Sage Kiernan-Sherrow  | News Editor

Concordia University, located in Portland, is the largest private university in Oregon, and it’s closing permanently at the end of this semester in April — its 115-year run coming to an end.

This makes Concordia the fourth local private university in Oregon to close since 2018, following Marylhurst University closed, The Art Institute of Portland and Oregon College of Art and Craft. 

A sophomore at Concordia, Bailey Wieland, called the news a “shock,” mentioning that she felt blindsided, because she had just received an email to register for the upcoming term. 

Concordia senior, Christian Thyron, concurred, adding that he had “heard enrollment was the highest it had been in awhile, and that Concordia was expanding and growing.” 

Wieland thinks that Concordia’s closing is due to low-enrollment — a notion that is backed by statements from the administration — although former reports show a growing online enrollment pattern over the last few years and their seven-year self-evaluation report portrays them as one of the highest growing universities ranked by the Chronicle of Higher Education.

Regardless, Concordia University has struggled financially in the past few years, following a rollercoaster pattern of increases and decreases. Portland Business Journal published an article on Feb. 10 discussing Concordia’s controversial partnership with HotChalk, a company which creates online degree programs, which resulted in a $1 million settlement that’s cause for speculation. 

Condordia has contributed more than 251,000 service hours benefitting an estimated 10,000 people, including 5,000 youth, according to their seven-year self-evaluation report.

“I feel really bad for the university. It’s been a home to people in the community and for those attending and working there,” Thyron said.

Concordia’s financial deficits have resulted in thousands of students struggling to figure out the next steps in their college careers. As Wieland said, “we are asking ourselves ‘where are we going to go now? Is all of our going to go to the other school when we transfer?’” Wieland plans to further her education through the University of Portland, but her peers still have many decisions to make. 

Western faces similar issues in terms of low-enrollment. Students interested in learning more about how the Incidental Fee Committee has responded to deficits created by low enrollment can find more information in the upcoming issue of The Western Howl, released on Feb. 18.

 

Contact the author howlnews@wou.edu

Courtesy of Concordia student, Bailey Wieland

Spokesperson for Out and Proud, Mick Rose, recalls their journey of reclaiming their cultural and historical queer heritage

Sage Kiernan-Sherrow  | News Editor

Out and Proud is an event hosted by Western’s Multicultural Student Union, which, “recognizes the challenges that people of color face within the (LGBTQ+) community as well as celebrate their achievements and successes,” according to their executive board. This year, Western invited Mick Rose, an Indigiqueer, non-binary human from the Diné, Omaha, and Pawnee nations to speak about their many intersecting identities.

“Let us never forget our privilege on the land that we occupy and in the institutions in which we study,” Rose began, reminding the audience that the forced relocation of Native people is what allowed Western to grow. 

Initially, Rose stated that they had felt conflicted about speaking because of their complex relationship with their own identity; they hadn’t always identified as a member of the queer community and “at many times felt marginalized by the community.”

For them, their pride was fostered through self-discovery, and reclaiming aspects of their indiginous culture and history that had been severed.

A major turning point in that reclamation came from their grandmother’s affirmations towards their “coming-out,” as it was then that Rose was introduced to their tribe’s five-gender system and realized that they identified as Dilba, a person who identifies with the female spirit, and people their grandmother described as caretakers, peace-makers, counselors and warriors. 

Previously, Rose spent years attending college at BYU, where they assimilated and faked straightness to avoid being kicked out, excommunicated or facing electric-shock therapy. 

“I knew then, it was a dangerous place to be, and I needed to fit in … so I could get out,” Rose said.

During one particular incident, Rose recalled being nearly arrested because they had taken a bite of their pizza as they stood in line to pay for it, and the unjustified consequences that resulted thereafter. 

“This incident left a permanent on my public record. It comes up now when I apply for jobs, it came up when I applied to be a foster parent. Every time I have to justify my conviction … and relive the embarrassment of being a target as a person of color at my university campus,” said Rose.

Rose was inspired to write their senior thesis on Indian Boarding Schools, institutions known for kidnapping native children and forcefully indoctrinating them into Christianity, who operated under the former Bureau of Indian Education whose mantra was “kill the indian, save the man.” Rose’s own family was heavily affected by Indian Boarding Schools.

“This background and my family’s relationship with education is important because there’s layers in that where colonization has severed my ability to connect to my gender and sexuality,” Rose said.

Colonization has removed examples of queer, two-spirit indiginous people from history, and Christianity was responsible for many of their murders and much of their supression. 

Rose acknowledged that the loss of indiginous queer knowledge and heritage is a loss for all queerfolk. 

Now, however, “the consistent work done to discover and of identity in the indiginous community is one that is mirrored by Western society as well. How wonderful that communities and societies are shedding the confines that colonization has held. How beautiful that various tribal nations are able to reclaim and then share our traditional knowledge in these contexts,” Rose said. 

Rose’s embodiment of pride comes at a variety of intersections; it combines the pride of being indiginous, the pride of reclaiming their non-binary, queer identity and the pride of rediscovering the language of identity under the reclamation of their indiginous tradition and culture.

Rose reminded the audience, “you can identify however you feel inside .. and it will change over your lifetime.”

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