{"id":1769,"date":"2019-02-12T15:26:16","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T23:26:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wou.edu\/health\/?page_id=1769"},"modified":"2020-02-27T15:03:33","modified_gmt":"2020-02-27T23:03:33","slug":"healthy-relationships","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/resources\/student-health-101\/social-wellness\/healthy-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Healthy Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>Healthy Relationships<\/h1>\n<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17-300x144.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"850\" height=\"408\" class=\" wp-image-2450 aligncenter\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17-1024x493.png 1024w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17-1080x520.png 1080w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/1-17.png 1350w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 850px) 100vw, 850px\" \/><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Respect, Honesty, Trust &amp; Communication:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Respect<\/strong><br \/>\nLearning about and valuing what is important to each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Honesty<\/strong><br \/>\nBeing candid about thoughts, feelings, and the desired direction of the relationship will allow both you and your partner the opportunity to simultaneously explore yourselves and the relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Trust<\/strong><br \/>\nOver time, trusting your partner will be necessary for a healthy relationship, but in the beginning trust is not automatic \u2013 it has to be earned. Always trust yourself to be who you are and to look out for your well-being. It is important to remember that trust is hard to earn but easy to destroy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Communication<\/strong><br \/>\nCommunication is equal parts listening and speaking. When you and your partner are communicating, try to make them feel justified in their emotions. Repeat what is said as you understand it and ask if you understand the situation correctly. Don\u2019t expect your partner to read your mind. Be as clear and direct as possible.<\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16-300x144.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"850\" height=\"408\" class=\" wp-image-2451 aligncenter\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16-1024x493.png 1024w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16-1080x520.png 1080w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/2-16.png 1350w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 850px) 100vw, 850px\" \/><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15-300x144.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"850\" height=\"408\" class=\" wp-image-2452 aligncenter\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15-1024x493.png 1024w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15-1080x520.png 1080w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15.png 1350w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 850px) 100vw, 850px\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8-300x144.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"850\" height=\"408\" class=\" wp-image-2453 aligncenter\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8-1024x493.png 1024w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8-1080x520.png 1080w, https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/4-8.png 1350w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 850px) 100vw, 850px\" \/><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/files\/2020\/02\/3-15.png\"><\/a><strong>Are you in a healthy relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, when a relationship\u00a0is starting\u00a0to become toxic, it may be difficult to recognize. Below is a guided list of questions to determine if your relationship is healthy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Does someone you care about&#8230;?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Constantly put you down?<\/li>\n<li>Repeatedly call or show up to check on you?<\/li>\n<li>Make fun of you in a cruel way?<\/li>\n<li>Control all of the money?<\/li>\n<li>Scare or threaten you? &#8220;If you do that again, I&#8217;ll&#8230;..&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Always blame you?<\/li>\n<li>Force you to touch or be touched when you don&#8217;t want to?<\/li>\n<li>Glare, yell, raise fists or break your things?<\/li>\n<li>Grab, shove, slap, or hit you?<\/li>\n<li>Control who you see or what you do?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Do you&#8230;.?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Always do what they want instead of what you want?<\/li>\n<li>Feel like you &#8220;walk on eggshells&#8221; to avoid anger?<\/li>\n<li>Feel scared to spend money?<\/li>\n<li>Stay because you fear what would happen if you left?<\/li>\n<li>Always feel like it is your fault?<\/li>\n<li>Believe if you just tried harder that everything would be okay?<\/li>\n<li>Believe you are nothing without them?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000\"><strong>If you answered &#8220;Yes&#8221; to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Resources<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/wou.edu\/health\">Student Health &amp; Counseling Center<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/wou.edu\/abbyshouse\">Abby&#8217;s House<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/sablehouse.org\">Sable House<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/mvwcs.com\">Center for Hope &amp; Safety<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Healthy Relationships Respect, Honesty, Trust &amp; Communication: Respect Learning about and valuing what is important to each other. Honesty Being candid about thoughts, feelings, and the desired direction of the relationship will allow both you and your partner the opportunity to simultaneously explore yourselves and the relationship. Trust Over time, trusting your partner will be [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1109,"featured_media":0,"parent":1840,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"<h2><strong>Healthy Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\u00a0\r\n<h2><strong>WOU Statistics, 2018<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\n[gallery link=\"none\" columns=\"1\" size=\"full\" display=\"slider\" ids=\"1799,1797,1798\"]\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n<h1>Healthy Relationships<\/h1>\r\nAll healthy relationships \u2013 whether they are friendship, roommate or romantic \u2013 have similar characteristics. Consider the following list when thinking about your own relationships.\r\n<h2><\/h2>\r\n<h2>Qualities in a good relationship<\/h2>\r\nWhile everyone has to decide for themselves what they want in a relationship and what defines a good relationship, here are some qualities to consider.\r\n\r\nBoth people:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Treat each other with respect<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Feel secure and comfortable<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Are not violent with each other<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Can resolve conflicts satisfactorily<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Enjoy the time you spend together<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Support one another<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Take interest in each other\u2019s lives: school, clubs, friends family, work, etc.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Have privacy in the relationship<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Can trust each other<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Are each sexual by choice<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Communicate clearly and openly<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Have letters, phone calls, and e-mail that are your own<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Make healthy decisions about alcohol or other drugs<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Encourage other friendships<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Are honest about your past and present sexual activity if the relationship is intimate<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Know that most people in your life are happy about the relationship<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Have more good times in the relationship than bad<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h2><\/h2>\r\n<h2>Respect, Honesty, Trust & Communication<\/h2>\r\n<strong>Respect<\/strong>\r\nLearning about and valuing what is important to each other.\r\n\r\n<strong>Honesty<\/strong>\r\nBeing candid about thoughts, feelings, and the desired direction of the relationship will allow both you and your partner the opportunity to simultaneously explore yourselves and the relationship.\r\n\r\n<strong>Trust<\/strong>\r\nOver time, trusting your partner will be necessary for a healthy relationship, but in the beginning trust is not automatic \u2013 it has to be earned. Always trust yourself to be who you are and to look out for your well-being. It is important to remember that trust is hard to earn but easy to destroy.\r\n\r\n<strong>Communication<\/strong>\r\nCommunication is equal parts listening and speaking. When you and your partner are communicating, try to make them feel justified in their emotions. Repeat what is said as you understand it and ask if you understand the situation correctly. Don\u2019t expect your partner to read your mind. Be as clear and direct as possible.\r\n<h2><\/h2>\r\n<h2><\/h2>\r\n<h2><strong>Are you in a healthy relationship?<\/strong><\/h2>\r\nSometimes, when a relationship\u00a0is starting\u00a0to become toxic, it may be difficult to recognize. Below is a guided list of questions to determine if your relationship is healthy.\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: #ff0000\"><strong>Does someone you care about...?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Constantly put you down?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Repeatedly call or show up to check on you?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Make fun of you in a cruel way?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Control all of the money?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Scare or threaten you? \"If you do that again, I'll.....\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Always blame you?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Force you to touch or be touched when you don't want to?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Glare, yell, raise fists or break your things?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Grab, shove, slap, or hit you?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Control who you see or what you do?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h3><\/h3>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: #ff0000\"><strong>Do you....?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Always do what they want instead of what you want?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Feel like you \"walk on eggshells\" to avoid anger?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Feel scared to spend money?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Stay because you fear what would happen if you left?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Always feel like it is your fault?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Believe if you just tried harder that everything would be okay?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Believe you are nothing without them?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\n<span style=\"color: #000000\"><strong>If you answered \"Yes\" to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.<\/strong><\/span>","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"class_list":["post-1769","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1769","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1109"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1769"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1769\/revisions"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1840"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wou.edu\/health\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1769"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}